Ep 21: Why December is the New January (AND Exactly How You Can Make the Most of it!)

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It all started when a wonderful lady I was speaking with said these words in passing, "Well, December is the new January..."

And even though it was the first time I'd heard those words, it felt like something I'd known all along. So, in this week's episode, I unpack WHY I think this is such a powerful perspective and share my exact process for preparing to make the most of upcoming opportunities!

SIDE NOTE: If you find today's episode helpful, I've created a corresponding Action Guide just for you (because I don't think we should ever reinvent the wheel!). Grab yours HERE!

It's a good one. I hope you enjoy!

Why December is the new January and what to do about it.

I had the chance to talk with a lovely, intelligent lady this last week who mentioned something in passing that has stayed on my mind all week: December is the new January...

I love the idea that we don’t need to wait for January to move forward. And don’t feel like you need to do what everyone else is doing.

Statistics show that 80% of people drop their new year’s resolution by February. And according to Forbes, just 8% of people actually achieve their resolutions.

Why on earth would you want to model that failure rate?

So, I’m proposing we look at things differently and not accept that tradition as the only way to go about bringing goals/change to our life in the winter.

I believe opportunity it open to those who are looking ahead, who are looking for it!

I know I normally talk about finding and shattering our Glass Walls that we put up in our own way or something close to that. But every now and then, I think we need to remember WHY we put in good work like that. WHY go through the efforts to shatter your Glass Walls if you don’t have a clear vision of what life could look like after you step past them.

That’s why I propose to you that December is the new January. I’m going to share with you what has worked for me (a peek into my process) and I’ve created a worksheet for you to do the same. So, take notes if you’d like but I’m going to give you the whole thing after I explain it. K?

1. Pursue Something Big

If we set a goal that we KNOW is totally realistic and COMPLETELY doable, it’s not really a goal… it’s a to-do list item.

PLUS... It’s the best way to learn more about yourself and your world.

And what I'm starting to observe (and have heard from others) is that it also attracts the best people! High-capacity individuals are not drawn to smaller ideas. We're drawn to BIG things that really make a difference. SO... why not give your work, your dream, your goal the best chance of succeeding by not keeping it small so it will attract the best people??

2. Keep Asking WHY

Once you've decided on a goal or a dream for the next year, walk through this exercise to really anchor yourself emotionally, mentally and even relationally to the goal. Here's what the exercise looks like... 

It’s best if you have a partner or friend to work through this, but if you don’t, don’t let that stop you. Once you have that goal, ask yourself the question WHY.

- Then, ask yourself WHY

- Again

- And again

- Ask yourself WHY five times in total.

This will allow you to get past the superficial reasons for moving toward your goal and really get to the heart of things. It may sound overly simple or even annoying, but trust me, the process is really revealing (in the best way!).

I had the chance to speak to a really intelligent business coach last week, Matthew Pollard, and he shared that many high-capacity individuals have goals and dreams that belong to someone else... They could be what you perceived your parent’s goals to be, or your best friends goals, or someone you admire, but if they aren't your own, it probably won’t stand the test of time.

Or... stand the test of “How much do you really want this?” headwinds. Is this term a new one to you? If so, I encourage you to check out Episode 7 on the concept of Lift. To boil it down, everything that climbs uses resistance to get there--even airplanes. They actually take OFF going into the headwinds and use those winds to climb. 

That's why this exercise is really good at drawing out WHY a goal matters to you! It’ll reveal if this goal is anchored enough in what matters to you to push through obstacles.

3. Write It Down

Did you now that we're 42% more likely to make it happen if we write it down??

Once you’ve distilled your goal down to this beautiful reduction, and you’re really clear on your why, write it down! And place it where you can see it.

Would you ever imagine a crucial step could be so easy?? Refreshingly, it is. So, please don't skip this super important step!

4. Surround Yourself With People Who Want to Move Forward Too!

Unfortunately, it’s not hard to find people who will nay-say your dreams and goals. Some of us know all too well the feeling of Tall Poppy Syndrome

And I also know that the simple idea of making sure you surround yourself with others who don't want to accept an 80% failure rate for their goals in 2018 will position you for MUCH more success! 

We go further together. 

That's a large part of why UnSabotage exists.

And I hope you found today's episode challenging and actionable.

In fact, I created a handout based on this episode just for you! It's a step-by-step process of walking through these exercises with other tips and amazing secrets to reaching your goals one after the other! 

Get access to yours now! Simply hop on over to: unsabotage.com/thenewjanuary

Until next week, don't settle for a success method that has an 80% failure rate. You're better than that and claiming that this December is your new January is a HUGE step forward in making that a reality.

XOXO,
Ginny

Ep 20: Why You Should Ask The Question That Got You In Trouble As a Child!

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Hey, Gorgeous! I'm back in the The States this week and I'm really excited about today's episode. It's all about asking that question (watch the episode or read below to learn what it is!) that probably got you or your friends in trouble when you were in grade school - either by teachers or by your parents.

I hope this is episode is both challenging and inspiring as you step into your greatness this week! Enjoy!

The question that probably got you in trouble in grade school and why you SHOULD ask it now! (PLUS, a carrier pigeon!)

Welcome to Episode 20 of UnSabotage with Ginny Townsend! I’m so excited and I want to celebrate - so I’ll tell you how at the end.

What is that one question that probably got you in trouble in grade school - maybe with a parent, or a teacher, or even with a friend. But now… harnessed properly, could really help you make some serious steps forward!

Here’s the question: “Says who?”

Do you have memories popping up of when you or someone you knew asked that question as a kid? Oh dang! They’re going to get in so much trouble!!

But it’s interesting how things change but we don’t get a notification that they DID change.

So, as you’re building something amazing in your life, whatever your business looks like right now, I’m sure you didn’t receive a notification on your phone, or a letter in the mail, or a courier delivered letter, or a courier pigeon telling you that the rules changed about this question.

So, I’m going to be your courier today! Your carrier pigeon! Here’s your official decree and proclamation!

Dear Lady Townsend, 

Please accept our sincere apologies for not sharing this important proclamation until this moment. 

We applaud your efforts in being a respectful youth and not asking the question “says who?”

However, it has come to our attention that this limit is no longer required of you. Please consider this proclamation as your official permission to ask “says who?” as you step into your greatness.

Actually, your world needs you to ask this question of others but especially of yourself!

Sincerest regards,
The Authorities

And while this may sound silly - actually I hope it sounds really silly! 

Because sometimes we view permission to do something from an external source as having more credibility than internal permission-giving. 

This is actually a glass wall I’ve experienced running into in different iterations. Waiting for permission. External permission. And I’ve spoken with enough driven, entrepreneurial women to know I’m not the only one who has experienced this wall.

So back to the question…

What does asking “Says who” actually look like in our lives?

If you find yourself thinking: Oh, I could never do that? - Says who

Or “Oh, I’m not good enough for that?” says who

Or “Oh, I’m not ready for that” - says who

Or “Oh, this isn’t a typical career” - says who

Or “What if it doesn’t work?” - says who

Or “What if I look like I don’t know what I’m doing?” - says who

Or “What if I’m not the best at it?” - says who

Or any other Glass Walls style thought that may cross your mind.

Challenge it. Ask “says who?” And if you don’t come up with a great answer, don’t trust the thought. 

It’s a limiting thought that probably THINKS it has your best in mind. But you’re not in grade school anymore. 

At first the thought may seem like it has authority - but look, you have a proclamation. From the authorities. 

And if you want one for yourself, email me at heyginny@unsabotage.com with the subject line Says who? and the name you want on your proclamation. There’s no cost. No commitment. Simply an early holiday gift from me to you.

 

Ep 19: Do You Have Big Goals for 2018? Here's My Best Secret For Doing Things I've Never Done Before...

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Hey, Gorgeous! As the New Year Approaches, I find myself thinking about all that I want to do in 2018. And many of those things (goals, really) are things I've never done before. Do you find the same thing for you?

If so, this is the perfect episode for you! I'm actually in the middle of doing something I've never done before IN this episode and I hope what I have to share encourages you and challenges you to step up and make some seriously strides toward those goals (even before the New Years Even clock strikes midnight!).

Enjoy!

What should we do to get from here to there?

I've gravitated to this really simple and profound statement as I plan for 2018... 

To do things I've never done before, I need to do things I've never done before!

That's actually why I’m here in London right now. If you haven't already watched this episode, I'm in London for a Christmas party. So, before you write me off as being frivolous, I have a couple things I'd love to share with you. 

A few days before receiving this Christmas party invitation, I decided to make live events with other women who are doing amazing things a true PRIORITY for me! In other words, I decided that IRL (or "in real life") allows for some incredible friendships to blossom, lovely connections to be made and don't get me started about the conversations that can happen! #IloveIRL

And if you've seen or listened to Episode 7 where I talk about the concept of Lift (like an airplane, we can actually use the winds of resistance to climb), you may remember me referencing the "How much do you want this?" headwinds.

Even though a Christmas party may not be considered a "headwind," the invitation sure felt like an opportunity to prove to myself how strongly I'll hold to my new IRL priority.

So, I knew I needed to figure out a way to make this happen! 

Once I'd made the decision to go, I moved to think about all that I want to be a part of and accomplish in 2018. And I asked myself this question, "Why do I need to wait until the ball drops on December 31st to start acting on my New Year's Goals?

As I listed out all that I want to do next year, then started listing out all that I'd need to actually DO to make those goals and dreams a reality, I noticed something in common around a lot of these "tasks."

Many of them I'd never done before. And oddly, that was comforting. Because the goals I've set are for things I've never done before. So, if all the tasks were things I felt comfortable doing or wouldn't have to learn or ask for help in accomplishing, my plans for reaching those goals would probably fall short, right?

Because what got us here won't get us there, right?

And if I haven't shared my driving statement for my works, it's this: All women living bigger lives.

Now, how on earth does this purpose become a reality without doing things I've never done before? :) (HINT: It doesn't)

So, as you look at your plans for 2018, I have a two-part challenge for you.

1. What is your BIG goal for 2018? If you could wrap up all the things you want to accomplish into one BIG goal, what would that goal be? (And, to clarify BIG, I mean something you've never done before... Do you get a sense of what the second half of this challenge will be??)

2. Once you've defined that ONE BIG goal for 2018, what is ONE THING you've NEVER DONE BEFORE that you can do THIS WEEK to move you toward that goal? 

Because often time, all we need is a little momentum. A little bit of excitement or courage to move to the next thing, big or small.

And honestly, here's the thing... time is going to pass either way.

So, I hope you accept my challenge and DO SOMETHING YOU'VE NEVER DONE THIS WEEK to move you toward that goal.

Want to share your goal with someone - or share the ONE THING you'd never done before that you finally DID? Comment below and tell me all about it! I promise to cheers you on!

And speaking of doing things I’ve never done to get me where I’ve never been, I’m hold my first ever MasterClass called Shatter Your Glass Walls (So You Can Step Into a Life You Adore!) this coming Tuesday, December 5th! I’d be so honored if you’d join me.

Click HERE to find out all the great details.

Have an amazing week and, like I said, I hope you do something (it doesn’t have to be big) this week that you’ve never done before to move you toward your goals and your greatness!

Until next week!

XOXO,
Ginny

Ep 18: Should We Be Grateful For What's Possible (Or Just What We Already Have)?

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Happy Thanksgiving, Gorgeous!

I absolutely love this time of year... here in the United States, we're celebrating Thanksgiving which tends to create moments for people to pause and consider what they're grateful for. PLUS... I recently heard an incredible entrepreneur speak about innovations and new technologies that are almost a reality. 

And these innovations he discussed, they're big ones. Think: illness will be optional and clean water will be as available as air.

Did that get your attention? If so, I think you'll really enjoy today's Thanksgiving episode as I unpack what this could look like, what it means for us as women entrepreneurs in a very disruptive business environment PLUS a challenge to not only be grateful for what we have but to be grateful for what's possible.

Because, frankly, most things are truly possible. Enjoy!

Since this week is Thanksgiving here in the United States, I wanted to share something that has captured my attention this past week: it’s about an entirely different type of abundance than I think we’re used to considering that could allow us to see diamonds as a commodity and find clean water as prevalent as air… and for that, I’m so thankful.

I love living in Silicon Valley and being near all the amazing companies that shatter the limits of what we may think is normal or possible.

Let me give you an example.

I recently heard a brilliant entrepreneur and influencer speak named Naveen Jain.

To be honest I think of myself as someone who doesn’t think small. I try to always have something or someone challenging what’s included in my gift box of possibilities: what I view as being possible to give and receive. And viewing them as gifts, always reminds me to be thankful for them.  

We all have these gift boxes, right? And interestingly enough, what we hold as possible in this box defines our lives. But these gift boxes are subjective in size. And he really challenged me to include things in my personal realm of possibility I’d never considered before, to expand this gift box.

In his words, “There is never a shortage of opportunity, just a shortage of thinking.”

And I agree with this. It’s easy to hear the news and think, “wow, there is so much scarcity, there is so much lack, there is so much hopelessness.” But I lovingly challenge you to not accept those thoughts as the whole picture. I lovingly challenge you to see that there is always more. I’m not saying that ignoring the problem is the way to go. Quite the opposite. I wholeheartedly believe that knowing there is more is the first step to changing those situations of scarcity, lack and hopelessness. 

Back to Naveen. He is preparing to send rockets to the moon for mining and development. No big deal. Here are some of his predictions to paint a clearer picture of what the possibilities look like...

  • Tickets to the moon being under 10K in the next decade (less that an international first class ticket)
  • The first baby will be born on the moon in the next 20 years
  • He even said that the moon could be our 8th continent (While this may sound crazy, think about how far Australia seemed a few hundred years ago to explorers and merchants. It probably felt as far as the moon feels now!)
  • Mining the moon, he estimates there are $16 quadrillion in mining resources near the surface (Here’s a reference point. I’m not trying to be political but I think this is the largest number we may have in our consciousness to pain a comparison, and that’s the US National Debt (at this writing it's around $20 Trillion). It’s something that the news frequently calls “crippling.” How does the national debt stack up again these resources. 1/8 of 1%. 0.125%. It’s crazy to think that the national debt isn’t even a rounding error of the moon’s resources. That’s a lot of resources quickly becoming available to mankind!)
  • He predicts that moon rocks will make diamonds a commodity - things that used to be viewed as scarce. (This made me think of salt. A few hundred years ago people would guard their salt as their most valuable possession, but now we're being told to consume less of it!! Limit. Shattered.)

Here’s another project he’s working on:

  • Illness will be optional 
  • That health care will be wildly disrupted by this technology such that consumers will be able to go straight to the science vs always needing a doctor
  • This is surprisingly near: the next decade or so

Let me ask a question of you, right now. What’s coming up for you as I share these shockingly current projects? Is it wide-eyed amazement? Excitement? Grateful to be alive right now? Fear? Overwhelm? Worried about being obsolete? Can you imagine growing your business (or starting a new business) in either exponential fields I just referenced? Space and health.

It’s compelling to note that a few skills become obsolete every year. But I hope that you don’t feel a sense of scarcity rise up as you hear this. 

What I want for you is the exact opposite. Limits are currently, very actively being pushed out farther than us. I hope you are looking at these new spaces that are opening up, new areas that previously had limits on them but are currently evaporating.

As markets continue to be disrupted, new opportunities will always arise. Businesses that don’t make sense right now will likely be some of the strongest in the future. 

What will people complain about then? What problems worthy of solving will then exist if resources like diamonds are commodities and clean water is like air? 

Like Alan Kay said, “The only way to predict the future is to invent it.”

Every time I hear someone talking about disruptive technologies affecting industries and practices we’ve never seriously been able to question in our lifetime, I keep thinking the biggest differentiator will continue to be our own mental game. How we think as we approach these shifts, in other words, how we interact with our own minds as we build businesses in a more limitless economy.

In an especially exciting time in technology, it’s more important than ever to be aware of our own Glass Walls - those barriers we’ve unintentionally set up in our own way. And if this term is new to you, it’s the phrase we use around here that envelopes the limiting thoughts and old habits that largely influence our day.

If you want to learn more about these Glass Walls, see the end of this post. I've gathered the links for some of my favorite episodes that paint a clearer picture of these Walls and how they can influence our lives.

It’s all about that gift box of possibilities we have subjectively framed for our lives. But I contend that we are made in the image of love, in the image of infinite, in the image of limitless so I hope you remain committed to fostering your biggest differentiator, or your mind.

I came across this thought about our minds by biologist Lyall Watson that I’ll paraphrase: “If the brain were simple enough to understand, we’d be so simple we couldn’t.” 

And as you’re planning on how you’re developing yourself, to build your dreams in a limitless world, how will you invest in yourself? 

If you’re looking for a roadmap to discover this Glass Walls in your life and shatter them so you can pursue these limitless dreams, I encourage you to join me as I launch my Masterclass series starting on Tuesday, December 5th. 

To claim your invitation, visit unsabotage.com/masterclass and I can’t wait for you to join me for this session.

Remember, there is always more. We need only look for it and be open to it.

And for that, we can be so grateful! So whether or not you’re currently in the States, I hope you take some time this week to be grateful not only for what you have, but for all that is possible. Sometimes life feels turbulent and scarce, but again my challenge to you is to commit yourselves to this notion: there is always more. 

Just because we don’t see everything right now, it doesn’t mean someone else isn’t working on something that will help you propel your business and life forward in the next couple of months.

Happy Thanksgiving, friends! And I’ll see you next week for Episode 19!

Bye, Gorgeous.

XOXO,
Ginny

P.S. Here are the other episodes I referenced in today's show about Glass Walls:

Episode 1: What are Glass Walls?
Episode 12: The Best Lesson a Glass of Wine Ever Taught Me
Episode 13: Did You Know The Thought "Not Enough" Has A Sinister Sibling?
Episode 14: Changing This ONE HOLD HABIT Forever Altered My Business
Episode 15: Have You Met The Super Scary "Always Monster" and "Never Monster?"

Ep 17: The 3-Letter Word That Will Change Your WORLD!

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Hey, Gorgeous! I'm really excited about this episode. Like the title implies, this 3-letter word is a complete GAME-CHANGER! And, like I share in today' episode, it's a word that keeps coming up throughout my day in all kinds of ways.

So, I figured I'd look you in on my journey and hope it encourages and challenges you to step into your greatness specifically in this area.

So, what on earth is this magical 3-letter word that will change your world?

ASK.

It's a word that can feel uncomfortable and "squishy," I realize that. It can have a lot of emotional baggage or weight, it can give you some anxiety, or if can make you feel pretty vulnerable (these last two are more specifically how this word affects me). 

So in the efforts of trying to remove the emotional effect of the word, (and because I love to know the actual definition of words when I dig into them), I decided to "ask" Google what "ask" means: “to say something in order to obtain an answer”

Well, that definition takes the emotion out of the word, doesn't it? "To say something in order to obtain an answer." Has there ever been a more straightforward take on this word??

OK, now that we know what we're working on, let's dig a little deeper. I had a conversation with a gentleman who was raising funds to launch his own VC fund. Specifically, we were talking about women in business.

He shared that he’s spoken with several women who have brilliant business ideas or software or other tech prototypes even, but have self-eliminated. They’ve talked themselves out of the idea before they ever had a chance to ASK for the funding.

And, on the other hand, he’s seen the most confident men in the world asking for money to fund ideas that weren't at all viable!

Side note: In no way am I saying all men have crappy ideas and all women stay silent. But this was a pattern we were discussing.

And I wish I could tell you its the first time I've heard it. But this is a rather common thread I keep hearing AND seeing in my community, and to be totally honest, in my own life (Which is why I think I keep seeing that word ASK!).

It is so much easier for me to ask on behalf of someone else. Is that the case for you, too?

So, with this pattern in mind, I thought I would dig into that gap between having a great idea and making the ASK. What are the steps in between? Where do we as amazing entrepreneurial women potentially put up Glass Walls in our way? Especially when we're so close to being funded!

And the result of my studying is three specific steps. When I pulled everything together, I noticed that all three words started with the letter C. At first I thought, "Oh, no! Did this just get cheesy??" 

But I really think that the three C's will help this roadmap be memorable, so the best words won!

Here they are: Clarity, Courage, Collaboration.

Clarity: Clarity about what we want, about what we need, about where we want to be.

Have you ever been in this situation where you’re hanging out with friends or your significant other and one of you suggests going out to eat. Then the inevitable question, “Where do you want to go?” Why is it so common in that moment for no one to know what to say?? Unless someone is clear about where they want to eat, that dinner discussion will hang around for longer than we’d all expect.

I think we've all been in this exact situation! And that moment when someone becomes clear about what they want to eat for dinner is a really REFRESHING moment! That's right--clarity is refreshing.

It's its own kind of authority and people really respect it.

It’s ok to be clear about what you want.

And it’s ok to ask for what you’re clear about.

One more surprising thing I realized about clarity is that it is a small hinge that opens larger doors.

Courage: One of the biggest ah-ha's I experienced this week as I studied this material, was that COURAGE is the EMISSIONS of CLARITY. 

I know we all have moments where we feel like, "Ah! I just wish I had the courage to ask for X." But realizing that this courage comes AS A RESULT of the clarity made me appreciate clarity even more.

But courage still has it's place in the pre-ask roadmap. Once we have clarity, we still need the courage to open something: dial the number for that important phone call, walk into the room of a big event, walk up to your ideal audience and say "hello." 

These all take courage. But when you have the clarity, the courage seems to make more sense.

Collaboration: It's within this collaboration space where the ASKs start to exist. Once you've started talking with another entrepreneur you want to collaborate with (my story is in today's episode), the ASKs become specific and intentional.

I really do love this phase. It's where things that will make a difference get birthed. It's where you can work on something that will have a further reach than you as an individual ever may.

So, the pre-ask roadmap, in my opinion, is a worthwhile journey to follow. And it all starts with a little bit of clarity.

Which brings me to my weekly challenge: What is 1 thing you need to gain clarity around this week to position you to open those bigger doors? Hint: just chose 1, and get super clear about it.

AND... how could I ever create an episode encouraging you to make the ASK if I don't do it myself? That would make me so incongruent!

With that in mind, I'm so excited to announce that I'll be starting a Masterclass Series in December! My first one will be sharing all the good stuff around Shattering Your Glass Walls.

And since I want to thank you for being a part of this launch, I'll be giving away some goodies between now and then. So, don't miss out! Claim your invitation today! 

Alright, Gorgeous. Have an amazing week and remember to ASK!

XOXO,
Ginny

P.S. Interested in learning more about my relationship to this word ASK? I did an episode a few weeks back about one a type of ask we shouldn’t do as we grow our business: and that’s asking for permission. It’s Episode 8. Check it out now!

Ep 16: The Biggest Universal Law That Affects Your Success (Plus I Have a Catapult!)

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As I wrap up the Usual Suspects series, I wanted to tie everything up in a nice little bow. How did I do that? Great question!

I went back to one of my favorite questions: WHY? 

Why is knowing what our Glass Walls are made of even important? Why did Ginny personify the building blocks that make up these Glass Walls? Why does all of this even matter?

I answer all these questions in today's episode by connecting them to one of the universe's most consistent laws... Check it out!

Episode 16: The Biggest Universal Law That Affects Your Success (Plus I Have a Catapult!!) 

Who ever gets to make that last statement?? I'm excited about today's episode for this and several other reasons.

If you're a reader like me, here are more of my notes. Enjoy!

Why is shattering your glass walls so important? Why is knowing the Usual Suspects so important?

And again, Usual Suspects are my way of personifying the thoughts and habits that create our Glass Walls.

Personifying ideas, thoughts or topics is a very powerful practice! One of the exercises I do with my students is I ask them to personify success.

What does it wear? How does it talk? How does it interact with others? How does it carry itself? Is it masculine or feminine?

Side Note: We could ask SO many questions, but I've discovered that just a few questions in, a persona starts to emerge. You'll be surprised. It's very eye-opening.

Because if we think success (regardless of how we define that word) is a tool we’ll stop ourselves from becoming that tool! I promise. So, it is wildly powerful to know what we think of things like success, failure, commitment and so on.

And even more than those topics, I'm a huge believer in personifying the building blocks that make our Glass Walls! 

Something I consider to be part of my role here at UnSabotage is to bring you new ways of looking at things like this to hopefully shed new light, create space for a well-timed ah-ha moment that opens you to a new success. It's something I really love to do, too!

I like trying to find other ways of looking at something that allow the ability to see things more clearly! 

For instance, it’s like holding this in your hand: a catapult! (If you haven't already, watch today's episode. I share the backstory of this little gem and why I thought it was so important to feature it as my FIRST EVER prop here on UnSabotage with Ginny Townsend!)

Bottom line: You can see it from one perspective, but if you look at it differently, you see so much more.

Simply because we see it from a different perspective! Nothing about the object itself has changed! It's just the vantage point from where we're watching.

So, today I thought I’d talk about one set of results we see if we’re being boxed in by those walls or shattering them.

Because as business women and entrepreneurs, we care about results, don’t we? I'm preaching to the choir here, right?

So, what are the results when we remain boxed in or shatter the walls and step through?

The different perspective I'd like to share with you today is this idea of Expanding and Contracting.

What do I mean by this? (first of all, if you're thinking, "Ginny, that's so woo woo!" give me a couple minutes and I'll show you that it's not!)

  • Our lungs are always expanding or contracting
  • Our bank accounts are always expanding or contracting
  • Our waistlines are always expanding or contracting
  • Our relationships are always expanding or contracting
  • Our free time is always expanding or contracting
  • Social movements are always expanding or contracting
  • Lakes and creeks are always expanding or contracting
  • Even plants are always expanding or contracting
  • It's pretty safe to say, everything in our world is always expanding or contracting

In other words, everything is always changing. 

Not woo woo is it?

So, doesn’t it make sense that our thoughts and therefore our lives are doing the same? Why would our thoughts and their relation to our lives be the ONLY exception to this universal law?

Here’s how it relates to what we’ve been talking about these past few weeks on the usual suspects:

  • Thoughts that limit us, by their own nature are contracting, right?
  • Thoughts that make you think less of yourself, of the world, of others: Contracting.
  • Habits that were defined and created when we were in a previous role but no longer fit your life are contracting, right?
  • Habits that set us up to play small or put other’s priorities first: Contracting.

Why contract when you have the ability to expand?

So, with all this in mind, my challenge this week is a simple one:

As you work, as you interact, as you do you, take a moment and simply ask, "Is this expanding or contracting my world? Is this expanding or contracting my work? Is this expanding or contracting the impact I want to make?"

So, I hope the answer to each of these questions is EXPANDING but if it's not, you are beautifully empowered to change things around.

I hope you have an amazing and expansive week. Until next time!

XOXO,
Ginny

P.S. If you're looking for the other episodes I referenced that introduce some of the most common Usual Suspects, here's a quick list with their links. Enjoy!

Episode 12: Not Enough
Episode 13: Too Much
Episode 14: Other People's Priorities
Episode 15: The Always and Never Monsters

 

Ep 15: Have You Met The Super Scary "Always Monster" and "Never Monster?" #BOO

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First of all, if you're reading this on October 31st, the day I posted it, Happy Halloween!

But either way, let's talk about what I mean by the "Always Monster" and the "Never Monster." Take a look at this week's episode below or hop on over to the original Facebook post to comment.

I hope you find today's episode encouraging and challenging as you continue to work on yourself and grow your business.

What I'm MOST encouraged by in this episodes is these monsters are only scary if we DON'T know they exist. Once we know they're there, they lose SO much power. 

Okay, let's get into it...

The other set of ugly twins, monsters actually, falls into the "Usual Suspects" category

What are "Usual Suspects?" Great question! If this is a new term for you, here's what I mean. "Usual Suspects" are those limiting thoughts and old habits we find lurking nearby when we discover we've been holding ourselves back.

If you want to learn more about a few more "Usual Suspects," feel free to check out Episode 12, Episode 13, and Episode 14. Each one of these digs a little deeper AND provides very practical tips on ditching them. 

Now back to the Always and Never Monsters...

In Episode 5, I did an episode around one specific instance of the Never usual suspect: “Oh, I could never do that.” 

So, if you haven’t watched or listened to it, I’d encourage you to do so!

Let’s take a look at some examples of when these usual suspects can show up

“I always mess things up”

“I never reach my goals”

There are many more, but you get the gist, right?

OK, because I think words are so rich and knowing their real definitions, no not assuming we know their entire meaning, I usually look them up to get more of a picture of WHO they are...

Always: At all times, on all occasions

Never: At no time in the past or future, on no occasion, not ever

So, let’s take a look at those statements I just made:

“I always mess things up” or in other words “I at all times and on all occasions mess things up”

Or: “I never reach my goals” in other words, “I at no time in the past or future, and on no occasion do I reach my goals.”

When I substituted the definition for the word, the statement sounded less real, didn’t it? It also sounded SO MUCH MEANER! I can't imagine saying something like that to a loved one! But we say things like that to ourselves on a regular basis.

So, why is knowing this and no longer making these statements important?

Our mind pays attention to what we say!

Sometimes, I think we forget that our mind is a living, changing thing. That might sound weird to say, but it’s true.

And it listens to what we say.

And that protective part of your brain, the one that views pretty much everything as a threat, really pays attention to what you say. So, if you say something like “I never reach my goals” enough times, that crocodile brain of your will start to see goals as a threat simply because we feel we "never" reach them. Think about the far-reaching ramifications of that newly-wired-into-our-minds limit?

I must add a caveat to the always/never usual suspects. There are some instances that we should treat differently but I also think we’ll recognize them when we hear ourselves say it: for instance, “I always overcommit to things” or “I never leave the house on time.” 

Do you see how those instances feel different? They aren't necessarily limiting thoughts, they're more like guard rails keeping you in your lane. Is the nuance clear? I hope so.

The Weekly Challenge: If you hear yourself start to say “I always…” or “I never…” stop yourself and think about it. Question it’s validity.

And because I adore you, I came up with some always/never statements that feel worthy of you:

You were ALWAYS meant to live when and where you do. Own it.
There will NEVER be anyone like you ever again.
Your world will ALWAYS be a better place when you step into your greatness.
Playing small will NEVER serve you.

 

 

Ep 14: Changing This ONE HOLD HABIT Forever Altered My Business

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In this week's episode, we continue to discuss "Usual Suspects" - you know, those pesky thoughts and habits hanging out nearby when you discover you've been getting in your own way.

This week, I share an "old habit" that, once I discovered that it existed, I was able to change it and forever alter my business. Check it out!

Old habits can be tricky to recognize and change, because like I mention in today's episode, the habit could have served you really well when the habit was formed. But now... it may just serve to hold you back from you new goal or from excelling in your new business.

So, what do you think?

Did you find this thought process helpful?

Do you resonate with this specific old habit of valuing others' priorities over your own?

I hope you find today's episode empowering and encouraging. You've got an amazing gift that your world desperately needs to see. So, let's continue to UnSabotage together, shall we?

Thanks again for joining me for another episode of UnSabotage with Ginny Townsend.

Until next time, get out there and UnLeash your greatness.

XOXO,
Ginny

Ep 13: Did You Know The Thought "Not Enough" Has A Sinister Sibling?

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Hey, Gorgeous! I know today's episode title reads like an intro to a horror flick but it's that time of year AND I really believe the statement is true.

BUT... what I also believe to be true is our awareness of this sinister sibling gives us power over it. So, our story doesn't have to end like most Halloween movies do.

Curious about what on earth this sinister sibling, this more evil twin actually is? Check out this week's episode...

Welcome to another episode of UnSabotage with Ginny Townsend! I'm so glad you're here. We're continuing the Usual Suspects Series and today's suspect is the sneaky, fraternal twin of last week's suspect which was "not enough."

It’s not identical, but it’s just as ugly.

It’s the thought of “too much.”

In other words, If I was fully me, if I fully showed up to the situation, the meeting, the room, I would be too much.

It’s ugly, isn’t it?

I have a friend who sings beautifully and she told me, she’s afraid to unleash her voice around other people. That it would be too much.

I know several very smart women entrepreneurs who have held back on speaking up or asking for the sale because they thought it would be too much...

Let me share an example of this in my own life that I hope you find helpful in recognizing this ugly twin in your life or in the live’s of others around you.

I may have mentioned that "positivity" is one of my 5 Gallup’s StrengthsFinder strengths. It something that I really like about myself now, but that hasn't always been the case.

Additionally... not everyone has treasured this strength in my life. There was a time in my career when I received feedback from several people that my positivity was coming across as naivety. It happened a few times in the span of a couple months.

And it really affected me.

I really started to temper my naturally positive nature. I would smile less because that somehow made me “less naive.”

I started wearing more and more neutral clothes, because my positive nature packaged in colorful clothes felt like a sure path to get more of those devastating comments. I didn’t want to open myself up to that any more.

So, I allowed those comments to make me feel like I needed to be smaller to fit in these scenarios.

Ultimately, I came around to the knowledge that these are just not my people and that I am my best when I embrace my strengths. I'll find my people and they'll find me. :)

So, cool. How what? How can I act when I notice myself using the phrase "too much?"

1. Ask the opposite: So, if I took the story I shared in today's episode as an example, I would turn the phrase of "being positive makes me look naive" into a question asking the opposite. So... "Does being negative make me smart?" By flipping it and asking it to prove itself, you can take a lot of the "too much" power away from it.

2. Ask if these are even your people: it matters who we listen to and what we let into our minds and hearts. It might sound cheesy but it's SO true! So, if someone is telling you you're too much, I think it's wildly appropriate to ask yourself this question. XOXO

3. Find someone you trust and ask them: sometimes an external perspective is super valuable so I have a handful of people I go to when I get the sense that others think I'm "too much"  or if I'm starting to think that thought over myself. Nine times out of 10, they'll say that's crazy... if they're you're people. ;)

4. Find that community! If you're looking for a group of women entrepreneurs to have conversations like this, to support each other and celebrate with one another for fully stepping into our greatness... I want you to know IT'S COMING! Message me here to find out all the details.

5. Write about it: you know I'm a fan of this. And since we think 95% of the same thoughts everyday, it's incredibly valuable to see your thoughts so you can examine them and challenge them if necessary. If you already have a place to go do that, like a journal or a favorite app, use it! If you're looking for something, I have a gift for you here that serve's this exact purpose.

6. Don't speak "too much" over others: while it can go without saying, I want to say it. As women entrepreneur's we have the opportunity to model so much to others: our friends, our loved ones, our clients, our colleagues, and the future generation. As we step into our own greatness, we encourage others to do the same. 

I hope you adored this week's episode. Do you have a favorite thought or takeaway? Share in the comments below.

Until next time, have an amazing week and step into your full greatness! You are not too much. You are exactly what your world needs!

XOXO,
Ginny

 

Ep 12: The Best Advice a Good Glass of Wine Ever Gave Me...

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Hey, Gorgeous! I'm excited to announce I'm starting a new series within these episodes. I'll be digging a little deeper (pun intended, watch the episode to get it ;)) on specific thoughts and habits that are usually nearby when we discover we've been holding ourselves back in a given area.

Today's thought is refuted by a great glass of wine. Check it out to find out what I mean!

Living in Northern California, we've had the chance to learn a lot about wine. And speaking of, Napa and Santa Rosa, you’re in our prayers with all the fires. One of my hubby’s coworkers lost their home yesterday to the fires so this definitely feels closer to home.

A couple years ago when the drought in CA was pretty bad, we went to Napa with some friends. 

We were talking with a vineyards owner about the drought and he let us in on a crazy cool secret.

He said, yes a drought can be tough on grapes but this years vintage will be valuable. He actually said some of his clients are already pre-purchasing this years wine as an investment.

He said, its actually a best-practice of winemaking to not overwater the grapes. In fact, they slightly under water them. They do this because the roots of the vines will dig deeper and find the nutrients and water that are deeper the surface.

Do you ever hear something and think, “Wow that’s profound. I need to think about this some more." And I'm still thinking about it which is why I'm sharing it with you today.

How does this tie into my series around common thoughts? So glad you asked.

The thought itself can have a few iterations but it goes something like this:

- I need to wait for the perfect circumstances.

- I don’t have enough money to start that business

- I don’t have all the skills needed to pursue X

So the common thread here is thinking we need to wait for external circumstances, approval, degrees, certifications, market conditions to line up perfectly to move forward.

These are all what I call "surface conditions." It's what you can see but it's by no means the whole picture.

In fact, what if that feeling of a limitation could actually be what adds the most value? In today's episode, I also share 5 people who, if you would have known their "surface conditions" before they became household names, you would have been stunned.

What if all you needed to do was dig a little deeper to find the real value, the real flavor that makes you stand out. In fact, it was never on the surface.

I hope this week's episode encourages you. It inspires me and it challenges me to keep digging.

Until next week, Cheers!
Ginny

Ep. 11: What I Learned From a Fallen Log on My Birthday

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My birthday was this last weekend. (YAY!) I've always enjoyed my day of the year. This year, my hubby asked me what I wanted to do and after looking at what the weather was supposed to be (read: an amazing fall day), I told him I wanted to be outside!

So, we went hiking up in the Santa Cruz Mountains. #Gorgeous

But here's why I'm sharing anything about my birthday... we came across a tree that had fallen forming a bridge across a creek.

Check out what came next...

Drew asked if I wanted to cross the log bridge... Um, no. (Thankfully I reconsidered).

Then, it occurred to me that this could be a tone-setting moment for the coming year.

Why on earth would I want to set the tone around what I couldn't or wouldn't do??

So... I took a deep breath and took that first step.

It was a pretty incredible experience! I'm thankful I had the chance to see challenge myself like this. And I'm even more thankful for my husband who challenged me to take it on in the first place.

Do you want to see the video of me crossing?? Here ya go...

BONUS: I also referenced an amazingly beautiful spot in Alaska called the Alyeska Resort. Here's a photo that we took at the restaurant level where those scary (totally stable mind you, just scary to me) metal grate decks were!

D&G in Alyeska.JPG

And finally, I mentioned that I would link to EPISODE 5 (the one where I asked everyone who would listen "Do we know everything about anything?). Here you go! XOXO.

To wrap up this episode, here's the 3-pronged challenge I have for you this week:

1. There will always be noise as you approach beginning something new. Carefully choose the noise you listen to.
2. Focus on that very next step you need to take. Everything else will figure itself out as you move forward.
3. Remember, your mind pays attention to what you say about yourself. Like Henry Ford said, "Whether you think you can, or you think you can't... you're right."

Have an amazing week and TAKE THAT NEXT STEP!!

XOXO,
Ginny

Ep. 10: How On Earth Can Old Shipbuilding Practices Help You Succeed??

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Great question, right? Well, it all started when I was talking with a couple good girl friends this last week. They were both facing some scary, cold winds in their work. You know, they were out of their comfort zone and felt exposed, like people were watching them to see how they handled a bigger situation.

And that's when I remembered this story I'd heard four or five years ago about this old, obscure shipbuilding practice. Check out this week's episode...

It makes sense that shipbuilders have always had to rely on their building materials to build a sea-worthy ship.

 

And before the advent of using steel, trees were pretty much the backbone of any ship.

 

Most importantly, the mainmast, the tallest mast needed to be seaworthy without question.

 

As shipbuilders gathered and prepared their supplies, here’s how they selected a tree that would one day serve as the mainmast.

They would look for a tree that was the right size, preferably on a hilltop. Then, they would cut down the trees around it so the future mainmast tree would face the full force of the winds without shelter. 

They would let that tree receive the full force of the wind to strengthen it. The wood became stronger as it spent more time in the wind. So good, right?

No, I'm not saying the tree enjoyed that process. And it's not a super-fun pastime for us, either. But here's the point... we can choose to assign value to our experiences. Actually, it's something we do without thinking about it. 

We can assign blame... We can assign opinions... We can assign stories...

But what if we assign a different kind of value? What if we look at the winds that are hitting us (pelting us at times) as what can actually allow us to find strength we may never have had the chance to see prior to that experience.

It's a similar analogy to the winds of resistance in the "Lift" episode and I hope you're encouraged by this thought. You will finish this season stronger than when you started it. 

Have an amazing week, because frankly, you're amazing!

XOXO,
Ginny

P.S. Here are the resources I mentioned in the video. The picture I have as my phone's and laptop's wallpaper. (Source: Michael Nichols, National Geographic

Look at this tree!! No, the others around it weren't cut down, this gem simply knew who it was and REACHED FOR THE SKY!!

Look at this tree!! No, the others around it weren't cut down, this gem simply knew who it was and REACHED FOR THE SKY!!

Ep. 9: What Are You Leaving On the Table?

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It's a question that came up when I was having coffee with a friend after last week's episode (the one about NOT asking for permission).

If we are waiting for someone to give us permission to pursue our dreams, what else could be be leaving on the table?...

That's what today's episode is all about. I share a couple different ways we can look at this topic and WHY we sometimes do this to ourselves PLUS I offer a couple specific next-steps we can all take to STOP leaving things, leaving money, leaving LIFE on the table.

What are we leaving on the table?

After last week’s episode, I had the chance to talk about the question I said to NEVER ask when pursuing your dreams: asking for permission…

And as we unpacked how we had seen this in our own lives and in several other situations, one of us asked the question, “How much do you think we leave on the table?…"

And we sat there in silence for a moment.

How much are we leaving on the table? 

What does that phrase even mean? The expression actually comes from the poker table. If you don’t play strategically, you’re leaving money/chips on the table. Additionally, it references a place, the table, that is close enough for us to touch - it’s not out of reach.

This is where I think this analogy meets its end of it's usefulness in this discussion. Because on the the poker table, the money (in this case) is finite. It is, in fact, a zero sum game. In order to obtain money, you need to win it from others.

- Life is not a zero sum game though.
- Some things are fixed and binary like that (you put out a bid competing with other companies, and only 1 will win), but for us to think this zero sum-ness informs all of life is selling it short.
- You do not have to take to gain
- You can add tremendous value to others and gain (think of it as addition by addition, not addition by subtraction)

When we view life as a zero-sum game, I think we’re more prone to leave things on the table because we may feel like we have to take from others to gain.

If you’ve seen a couple episodes of UnSabotage, you may have heard this idea of us setting up Glass Walls in our own way.

They’re made of limiting thoughts and old habits - and I think this view of the table, zero-sum-ness is a limiting thought that so many of us unknowingly subscribe too.

So, back to the question: How much are we leaving on the table? 

Let's look at it another way...

I had the chance to hike in the redwoods this weekend with my hubby’s momma.

We got to see the rings of a tree that existed B.C.! I saw that every circle, every ring, had it’s own characteristics. Some were wider, those were generous years. Some were leaner, those were drier years.

Just like the rings of a tree reach out further and further, a reflection of all the years that have gone before, I think we approach life, and what we expect of it in a similar fashion.

Here are the Four Rings that I came up with as it relates to our movement from our internal conflict with leaving things on the table, to our external attempts, requests and eventual success of reaching those things:

1. Waiting for permission: Going back to what we discussed in last week's episode, when we wait for someone's permission, we could be waiting for a long time...

2. We can be afraid to ask for it: Yes, we see what we need on the table, but moving it beyond the thought of it to actually asking for it can be scary.

3. We reach for it but stop just short of grabbing hold, or as I like to call it, the "3 Feet From Gold," or the Think And Grow Rich story. A gold minor during the Gold Rush found a vein of gold and went to town! The vein dried up and he kept digging for a while but eventually gave up and sold the land and his equipment to someone who, get this, dug just 3 feet further and found the gold vein again. Or, you could put another way, “If you don’t quit, you win.”

4. Our expectations: of life, others and ourselves

"If we don’t ask much of others, we may not ask enough of ourselves. If we don’t ask much of ourselves, we may not ask enough of others."

We all have greatness is us. Sometimes we simply need to pause and pay attention to it.

There are 3 thoughts I want you to remember as you approach your next table:

1. Remember there is a table - and it’s right in front of us
2. You have permission to engage with that table
3. Your world and your life’s work are asking that you engage with the table

What can we do about this? How can we stop, or lessen, leaving life on the table?

I’ve created a gift for you that you can use to walk you through a these few questions. Simply go to UnSabotage.com/tryit

Once you download your amazing little gift, I encourage you to answer these 3 questions around this week's episode:

1. If I were to look at my table, the one that’s right there in front of me, what would I find? What’s on it?
2. Am I afraid of engaging with the table?
3. What’s my strongest reason for engaging with the table?

Then there’s an eye-opening exercise at the back of this gift to help you dig even deeper into what you found. I encourage you to go check it out.

So, until next week’s episode, here’s my challenge for you: remember there’s a table in front of you and don’t be afraid to engage with it. Don’t leave any part of your life on the table. 

Did you like today’s episode? If so, I’d be so honored if you’d share it.

Until next week's episode!

XOXO,
Ginny

Ep. 8: When Pursuing Your Dream, Here's the One Question Your Should NEVER Ask!

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Hey, Gorgeous! Hope your day is already amazing. In this week's episode, we look at the two types of questions people tend to ask when they're building their dreams.

One type I argue we should NEVER ask!

The other type (and this is the one I'm working on being better about) is one of the most powerful questions we can ask in actually bringing our dream to life!

Here's the episode:

So, what do you think? Do you see yourself asking either of these questions? Do you see the NEVER question popping up in your life? Or the HELP question?

If you're looking for a way to take this episode further, hop on over to UnSabotage.com/tryit for a gift I made just for you that will help you think better about these two questions as it pertains to your dream.

Did you like this week's episode? If so, I would be incredibly grateful if you'd share it!

Until next week, stop waiting for permission and pursue that beautiful dream of yours!

XOXO,
Ginny

Ep. 7: The Concept of Lift: And How it Will Forever Change How You Look at Resistance!

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What if what you're struggling with right now could actually be what helps you reach your goal! (And how a principle in aviation convinced me this is true)

I first wrote about this idea that "lift" or using headwinds to climb back in 2013. Here's a link to that post. I thought I would take a fresh look at this idea and see how the last four years have further defined this concept. Here's what I came up with...

Married to a pilot for 12+ years, I've been exposed to a LOT of aviation knowledge, history, principles and specific aircrafts. Oh my word, the aircrafts. In all honestly, it is very interesting stuff but there is one concept that has stood out to me as having practical implications in my own life and I wanted to share...

It’s this idea of LIFT.

What is lift?

NASA explains it with: “Lift is the force that directly opposes the weight of an airplane and holds the airplane in the air. Lift is generated by every part of the airplane, but most of the lift on a normal airliner is generated by the wings. Lift is a mechanical aerodynamic force produced by the motion of the airplane through the air.”

Thank you, NASA for the technical definition! 

So, more practically speaking, why do I love the idea of lift?

1. Lift uses headwinds to climb
- The aircraft literally uses resistance, that means headwinds not tailwinds, to climb
- And it is worth noting that this resistance is external

2. Lift is produced by the motion of an airplane through the air
- In other words, something that’s standing still doesn’t experience lift.
- You need to be moving. NASA said so. ;)

Hear me! 

I’m not saying things NEED to be hard to move forward.

I’m saying, if you find you’re facing resistance, you can use it just like any other tool in your arsenal to move forward.

It’s actually the way you’ll get there, not what will keep you from it. Just think of it. What you may have previously thought would take you down (that tech issue, partnership trouble, whatever it is), may actually be the thing that helps you climb. <mind blown>

On the other side of the continuum, I’d also like to address this thought: “Maybe its not meant to be.” There is a time and a place for this thought, but its hardly ever when you’re still on the ground and haven’t even taken off yet.

In fact, I've actually renamed these earlier headwinds. I now lovingly refer to them as the “How much do you want this?” winds.

Why? If we stop working on something while we’re still on the ground, we didn’t really want it. That’s ok. Don’t blame the winds. Just be ok with the fact that you didn’t want it

It’s when we use those winds to climb that we show ourselves and the world around us that we want it!

So, if you find yourself thinking "Maybe it's just not meant to be," I encourage you to ask yourself, "Do I even want this?" Because if the answer is no, you'll probably be looking for a parachute (Let's keep the analogy moving forward, shall we?) during the entire flight.

OK, cool now what?

Practically speaking, what can we do when we are trying to get off the runway and face some headwinds?

I have 3 suggestions for you:

1. If you’re still on the ground, it’s easy to think about the whole flight that you have ahead of you. I challenge you to not stay focused on that. It can feel overwhelming, scary, impossible. But really, when you’re fighting battles in your mind that don’t even exist yet, using precious energy (fuel) that could be better served in getting you off the ground

 Instead, think about the next thing you need to do, the next hurdle you need to overcome (or the next gust of wind) to keep you moving forward. Focus on that. Because you can actually do something about it.

2. If that doesn’t seem to help, ask yourself an honest question: do I even want this? If you’re still on the ground and considering surrendering to the fates, maybe this isn’t something you really want to fight for. That’s ok. Use that precious energy elsewhere.

3. Do you remember that show “Who wants to be a millionaire?” I think they introduced a concept that was much more profound than they probably realized. If someone was in trouble and they didn’t know the answer, they had the opportunity to “Phone a friend.”  They could tell their friend the problem and ask for help on national television. So, much like this show, if you face a problem you don’t know how to solve, and you’ve already determined with #2 this is something you really want, phone a friend. Ask for help. The outside perspective will be priceless, I’m sure. They’ll be like, oh, this is all you need to do.

So, my challenge for this week is to remember this when you face headwinds. Then you can smile at them and even thank them as they help you climb just a little bit higher.

Until next week!

XOXO,
Ginny

P.S. If you'd like to read the entire post as a blog versus watch the video, I transcribed this just for you! Enjoy. 

Hey, Gorgeous! Ginny Townsend here, founder of UnSabotage and welcome to another week of our Facebook Live show. So, if you had a chance to read the tease of the video, you're probably wondering what on earth is Ginny talking about? So, especially if you watched last week's video about the Hurricane Harvey relief effort, or if you know me, if you've ever had a conversation with me you probably know that my husband is a pilot. There is something about a community of pilots. It’s in their blood, it’s in their DNA, it’s deeper than them to a career or a hobby, it's just it's such a part of them. 

And so, I stepped into the aviation culture almost 13 years ago now and it's been an amazing adventure ever since. Since then, I have learned a ton about flying, a ton about like the principles of aviation, the history of aviation, and ALL kinds of aircraft… You have no idea how many different kinds of aircraft I know random things about, but there is one principle that has held my attention over this last decade that has influenced my life and I'm bringing it up today because I hope it influences yours as well. 

It's this idea, this concept of “LIFT.” So what is lift? And I reached out to… well, I Googled an organization called NASA, you may have heard of it, for their definition and I'm going to read the technical definition to you. 

“Lift is the force that directly opposes the weight of an airplane and holds the airplane in the air. Lift is a mechanical aerodynamic force produced by the motion of the airplane through the air.” Okay, cool thank you, NASA! 

That is the technical definition and what, more practically speaking, draws me to this concept is have you ever been to an airport and paid attention to the direction of the runways and how they usually criss-cross? That is the case because it's based on the wind patterns of the area where the airport is built, and when an airplane takes off it heads into the wind. Air traffic control looks for headwinds and that's the direction in which they tell all the planes to take off. They don't point them towards the tailwinds. If a plane was trying to take off with a tailwind it would just push them down the runway. They would never take off. I can't think of a private plane, a commercial plane or a military plane where that would ever be the goal! So, in the concept of lift we point ourselves towards the headwinds and actually use those winds like a stair step to climb. 

Isn't that cool? 

And the other concept ... or part of the concept that you may have caught in that NASA's definition is it's a force that is applied to the plane when it is in motion. So, whether it's on the runway getting ready to take off or whether it is climbing, whether it is cruising, descending, whatever, the plane has to be moving for lift to work. It can't be sitting still. A plane sitting still will never take off. It will never ever take off. So I think that that is also really an interesting concept. 

But hear me, I don't want you to think that I'm saying, “Oh, we need to go after the hardest part. We need to, you know, suffer a lot of pain. We need to kill ourselves trying to get into the air." That is not what I’m saying. I don't subscribe to that. I absolutely believe in a good work ethic, but I do not think that we need to kill ourselves or become weary of mind and soul to be able to take off. I think there's a smarter way and it's actually using the tool of resistance to climb. 

So on the other hand, there's this camp that's like, "Okay. I need to go for the hardest part. The hardest part is where success is," and sometimes that is the case but that's for every stage of the flight, that's not always the case. But then there's this other side of the thought continuum on this topic and that is when we face even our first, second, whatever gust of resistance wind, we start thinking, “Oh, maybe this just wasn't meant to be." And sometimes, things aren't meant to be. There is a place for making that statement, for having that thought but it's not usually on the runway before we've taken off or when we've hit our first gust of headwind. That's not usually where we need to really pay much attention to that thought of, "Was this really meant to be?” 

I think sometimes when we ask that question early on in a “flight” or in a journey, I think we should give ourselves the grace to say, “Okay, is this something I really want?" Because if it's not something you really want, you're probably going to look for a way out or like an “ejection” to keep with the analogy, throughout the remainder of the flight, and it's going to be much harder work than you need. It's probably not what you're meant to be doing if you're looking for an escape that early on. 

But then there's another name for these first resistant winds that some people will say, “Oh, maybe this isn't meant to be." I say we look at it totally different. I say these winds, especially the first few gusts, are the "How much do you want this?” wind. That is the name that I have lovingly given them, because when we start a project or a new career or a new business or a new anything, it's exciting and it's fun and the future is limitless. (I still believe that the future is limitless, by the way) but when we hit our first gust of wind, gust of a headwind, that's usually when we start saying, "Oh." 

We divide into two paths. We either say, "Oh maybe this isn't meant to be," and kind of look for a way out or we say, "Okay. This gust is probably the first of the ‘How much do you want this?’ wind.” It is when we can then use the resistance of the headwind to climb, that's when we can prove to ourselves and to the world how much we really want this. Isn't that amazing? Absolutely amazing.

So I hope that I have convinced you that lift is a really amazing principle that we can continue to draw in and draw on and I kind of toyed with "Do I take this analogy even deeper?"

And I thought, "No, not on this video." 

I wanted to introduce the concept to you and I will come back to this with more kind of like topical videos on the concept of lift and really the field of aviation. But, like I said, I hope you have found that the idea of lift is really cool, but practically speaking you may be saying, "Cool Ginny, how do I bring it into my everyday life?" 

And I am so glad you asked, because I have three tips for you on how to bring this into your world and like move it from the theoretical to the actual. 

1. The first one is, especially if you're on the runway or if you're just at the beginning part of the flights, it is so easy to think and obsess about the entire flight. We can think about all that needs to be done, like all the battles that need to be fought, the resistance we need to overcome, all the things we need to do, all the people we need to hire, blah blah blah. It can become overwhelming and then we just kind of spin using our energy, or fuel to keep with the analogy, kind of circling not really going anywhere. So it doesn't serve you well to think about the whole flight. I just want you to think about what is that next gust of wind that you need to use as a stepping stone to climb. 

What is coming at you? What is the resistance that you need to solve? Maybe it's a tech issue, that you're like, "Ugh." Maybe that would normally take you down. You're like, "Okay, no. I can figure this out. This is a 'how much do I want this' wind that I can overcome." So think about just that first, that next step, that next gust that you need to pay attention to, that you need to climb to move forward. Okay? Cool.

2. So the second one is, well first of all if that first exercise didn't work, maybe just go ahead and ask yourself, "Do I even want this?" Because there may be something that you should be pointing all that energy, all that momentum, all of that climbing the resistance headwind effort towards that you're not right now. Maybe you know this isn't ... like maybe it is kind of a safe option and you're like, "Ugh." Or maybe it's just, it's not maybe even in the field that you want to be focusing on. Whatever it is, whatever the reason is, ask yourself, give yourself the grace to say, "Hey, do I even want this?" Because like I said earlier, you're probably going to be looking for an ejection like a parachute, a way off the plane throughout the whole flight, if it's not something that you want. Okay, so that is two.

3. Then the third one is, do you remember that show Who Wants to be a Millionaire? If you haven't seen it, it was a game show a number of years ago where the point of the game was a contestant was asked more and more difficult questions and if they got all of them right, at the end of the game they would win a million dollars. But, on the progressively harder and harder questions, the host gives the contestant a few Lifelines and one of the lifelines was called “Phone-a-Friend.” I love it when things like game shows are much more deep and meaningful than I'm sure they ever intended to be. But I love this idea of phoning a friend and to be honest, it is this area ... it is the suggestion of these three that I am working hard on most right now. It's not something that I honestly find comes natural to me. My natural tendency is to be like, "Alright Ginny. Figure it out. You can do this." So I am working on this, this third tip or trick of phoning a friend. Because often times it's that outside perspective that can make all the difference. You're sitting in the plane, right? You can't see all the way around. You can't see the entire situation, so an outside perspective can make all the difference in bringing what you want to life. Cool, makes sense?

So like I said, I hope I have convinced you that the aeronautical principle of lift is actually really cool. So, what do you think about it? What do you think about the idea that headwinds can actually help you take off? That they can actually, what you might have normally thought like resistance coming at you like, "Oh this could take me down," it can actually be what helps you climb. I hope that you find it like simply profound. Let me know what you think in the comments below and did you like today's video? If so, I would be so honored if you share it. So, until next week I hope that if you face any resistance, any headwinds, that you recognize them ... you remember this video, you recognize them what they are and smile, because you can actually use them to climb. It can be your secretly best friend. So I can't wait to talk with you next Tuesday morning at 11 am Pacific. Until then, have an amazing week and soar. Alright, bye Gorgeous!

Ep. 6: What I Learned About "Tapping In" From The Hurricane Harvey Relief Efforts

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My husband left this week to go fly rescue and support missions in the Houston area after Hurricane Harvey. The day he left, I had the opportunity to bring him lunch so I pounced on having that extra time with him. Here's what I've been thinking about since then... 

And, in case you'd rather read this as a blog post, here's the transcription: 

Hey, Gorgeous! Ginny Townsend here, founder of UnSabotage, and I am coming to you from sunny San Jose, not New York like I did last week. I want to thank you so much for joining me today, wherever you are. I actually have a little bit of a confession. I had planned a topic to talk about today, that up until this morning, I was very excited to talk about. Then, when I woke up this morning, my first thought was, "No, that's not what I need to share today. That's not it." So, I've spent this morning really digging into what I think we really should be talking about today, and it actually has to do with what I've seen with the Hurricane Harvey relief efforts like you might have seen in the tease above. 

My husband is actually one of the pilots that is out there flying right now, looking for people who are on rooftops, or cars, or in boats, or wherever, out in the Houston area. If you would join me in praying for their safety as well as those that they are working to rescue, that would mean the world to me, so thank you for standing with me in that. Really, yesterday I went to go bring Drew lunch, my husband lunch, before he left. I took one more opportunity to see him before he left town. I pounced on it, so I packed up lunch and then I brought it to him, and we got to hang out and talk a little bit more before he left town. 

When I got to the area where they were getting everything ready, I just noticed a complete change in energy. I mean, something was activated. There were so many planes, and there were all of the helicopters that were ready, and there were so many people working hard to get this effort to Texas where it needed to be. There were at least three or four planes, and like I said, a couple helicopters. The thought that struck me as I drove by, and just was amazed, was that these are men and women of action. They did not get stuck in some kind of “analysis paralysis,” thinking, "Oh, this is so big. There's so many people that need help. I don't know what to do, I don't know where to start." They know what they're uniquely capable of doing, and they were prepared, so when the call came, when they were tapped on the shoulder, they were able to act. 

It got me thinking. It got me thinking, as often things do. Because they were called up by a larger relief effort, something you could say is a national scale, or at least has national awareness, I don't think that people need to wait until there is some type of national level awareness for us to step into what we're uniquely capable of. However, there are times in which what we are uniquely capable of is called upon, and we are tapped. We obviously need to be ready, and then we need to act. I have a couple quotes for you. If you know me at all, you know I loooooove quotes. 

This first one talks about that external tapping, and it is by Winston Churchill. 

"To each there comes in their lifetime a special moment when they are figuratively tapped on the shoulder, and offered the chance to do a very special thing, unique to them, and fitted to their talents. What a tragedy if that moment finds them unprepared or unqualified for that which could have been their finest hour." 

So yes, Sir Winston Churchill was talking about being tapped by the situation, by the world, by the circumstances, saying, "Hey, you are uniquely capable of doing something that really matters right now," that tapping on the shoulder. 

But I think that there's also times in which we aren't necessarily tapped on the shoulder externally, but we know what we're uniquely capable of is needed, and we almost need to be the one that taps ourselves on the shoulder. But that fear, and that “analysis paralysis,” like I mentioned a little while ago, can step in, and be like, "I don't know, am I ready? Am I the person for this?" I have a quote for that, too. 

I have the quote for the internal side of things, and why we maybe don't tap ourselves in. It's by Marianne Williamson. It's one of my favorite quotes. I share it with as many people as I possibly can, all the time. It goes, 

"Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, 'Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?' Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God, and you're playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine as children do, and as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others." 

Isn't that beautiful? Isn't that absolutely beautiful?

There are these two times, like I've said, where we tap in and become men and women of action, doing what we are uniquely capable of, and it's either someone else, our situation, our world, an emergency like what is happening with Hurricane Harvey, taps us in. But then, like I said, there are times when we could tap ourselves in, but we don't, because we have this fear, like Marianne Williamson said, that we were supposed to play small, that somehow us shrinking back makes everyone feel safe. I wholeheartedly oppose that thought. Because I believe that you have a shocking amount of greatness in you. 

I challenge you, and I know this is a little bit of a shorter video today, but it's what has been on my heart from the moment that I got up. I challenge you to do not let your light dim, because maybe it's the first time you have a chance to step out and tap yourself in to being the person that you need to be in the situation that you're in. I encourage you, and I challenge you, do not play small either. I encourage you to be prepared, like my husband and all of the different units around the country are, that have activated and that are out there actually doing what they are uniquely capable of, and literally saving people's lives. 

I know that what you do is valuable in your own world, even if it's not at that national level. I really challenge you to tap yourself in. If you see an opportunity where what you do is really needed, I would say don't wait. Don't wait for someone to offer you the chance to make a difference in your world. Tap yourself in. Tap yourself in. 

I think that it would be very incongruent of me to tell you, or to encourage you to be a man or woman of action today, without giving you a call to action. Stay close. Stay close to what I'm doing. Stay close to UnSabotage, and I think we're going to be able to build something amazing. I am tapping myself in here, because I really believe that where I'm at, when I'm at, I have a uniquely capable talent and a voice to share with people, to encourage people to step into their biggest and greatest selves. 

Don't shy away from this opportunity. Stay close, like I said to UnSabotage. If you go to unsabotage.com, I have a freebie for you, but really what I want you to do is opt in. Tap yourself in to joining what we're building at UnSabotage. Enter your email address, there's a place on every page that you go on that site, and we will continue to tap each other in, and do something amazing, that we are uniquely capable of in our world, to make our world a better place. I know that might sound cheesy or cliché, but it's what we have all wanted from the dawn of humanity. It's a pretty big challenge, but I think we're up for it. So have an amazing day, and like I said, be a man or woman of action this week. Until next time, I'll see you next Tuesday at 11 AM Pacific, here on Facebook Live. Bye, Gorgeous.

Have an amazing week and I'll see you next time!

XOXO,
Ginny

Ep. 5: The Only Question I've Ever Asked That Brought A Unanimous Response (And How This Could Change Your Life)

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I just had the most unique experience!

I asked this one question to BUCKETS of people: both liberals and conservatives, people of faith and not, several cultural backgrounds, serious people, silly people, undergrad students, graduate students, a PhD student, nurses, engineers, entrepreneurs, designers, teachers, volunteers, mothers, fathers, and the list could go on and on.

What was so cool about the experience was that everyone had the SAME answer

Who knew something like that was even possible?

I shared the question and the answer in yesterday's Facebook Live so if you haven't had a chance to see it, here's all the goodness.

And even though the question and unanimous answer experience was incredible, the thought that it led me to is something I challenge you to consider as you approach the new and unknown in your life.

I hope this week's video is both encouraging and challenging because you're a gem and frankly, a gem should shine.

And just in case you'd rather read this week's show as a blog, here's the video's transcript:

Hey, Gorgeous! Ginny Townsend here and I am actually coming to you live on location. My husband had a work trip that brought him out to New York, and I came along for a little bit. I'm actually on my way back to the airport and back to California. But I thought it would be fun to do a show out on location. If you saw the tease for this video, I'm sure you're wondering, "What on Earth is she talking about?" 

I usually have a lot of experiments going on at any given time. One experiment that I have been working on for the last couple months, I've asked a lot of really smart people in person, over text, and just recently on my social networks to my friends, this one question.

I asked: 

Undergrad students
Graduate students
PhD students
A PhD
Engineers of all kinds, whether that's software or NASA
Teachers
Nurses
Parents
Teenagers
Liberals
Conservatives
People of faith
People not of faith
I tried to get as many people as possible to answer this one question. If I hadn't experienced it I probably wouldn't have believed it, but can you believe that they all agreed on the answer?

I'm sure you're wondering, "What on Earth is this unicorn pixie question that she's referring to?" It is the question, "Do we know everything about anything?" Take a moment. It's kind of a big question, right? We know a lot of things, but I didn't get a single maybe, let alone a yes. Everyone across the board, “No." Usually without hesitation. "No. No we absolutely do not.”

We do know a lot of things. For instance, surgeons can perform intricate surgeries when their patients are hundreds of miles away. We've been to space… a lot. We can print cells and organs. We can do a lot of stuff. I mean, I just pushed one button and I'm live talking with you right now. We obviously know a lot. We're probably the most educated people to have ever lived. But we still don't know everything about anything.

Why did I ask that question? It goes back to a story, an experience that I've had over the last four years. Four years ago, I stopped eating meat and dairy just as an experiment. Like I said, I'm always doing experiments. If you know me, you know I don't lead with that. I'm not trying to convert anyone to that. But it's something that I really adore and I love about my lifestyle. Inevitably it will come up if I make a new friend or I'm out to eat with a colleague or whatever, that I don't eat dairy. 90 percent of the time I'll get the same response. It is, "I could never do that.” 

Which is so interesting, because first of all, my question, in my mind at least, I haven't asked this out loud quite yet. But I've always been like, "Says who?” or, "Based on what?"

As I've been thinking through this, maybe they meant, "I'd never want to do that.” If that's the case, it's a decision and you've made a decision. You never want to do something. That's fine. There's plenty of things I never want to do. But it's the idea of thinking, "Oh, I could never do that,” which I have not been able to find any fact, any documentation, any principle, any law even, to state or to support that idea that we could never do something. We could never know that we could never do something. In and of itself, it's kind of unknowable, isn't it?

What do you think about that? Is that an interesting concept? An interesting way of looking at things? 

Actually, what I thought was really funny was, we were out to dinner with some friends on Sunday. I mentioned that I'm going to be doing a live show on location this week, Tuesday. When I explained that it was going live, it wasn't recorded and then posting live, his first reaction, his response was, "I could never do that.” That was amazing! I was like, "Oh my gosh! That's the exact topic I'm going to be talking about!”

I just want you to know that the smartest people I know disagree with that. I don't think that there's any way that we can actually know what we could never do. I'm wondering, does something come to mind? Can you think of the last time you said that? Because I know we've all said it. It's a very common phrase, and now I hope that you start listening for people saying that. But I encourage you, especially if you can remember one or two, multiple times that you've said, "Oh, I could never do that. I could never do that.” 

Here's what I would love, because this is what I do. I write down or I type out, "What happened? What was said? What did I say? Oh, I could never do that. Right.” But was there a common theme? What was it about what was shared that made me say, made me put this huge limit on myself saying, "Oh, I could never do that?” Not even that I don't want to. I encourage you to write it out or type it out. Are there any things in common?

For instance, there could be, are they relational, "Oh, I could never do thats?” Are they career oriented, “Oh, I could never do thats?” Or physical limitation, “Oh, I could never do thats?” Or even my example, dietary, "Oh I could never do thats?” 

I hope that you feel challenged to not accept this thought, that we kind of, I hear a lot of people saying it. I hope that you don't just assume that because you say it, it's actually true. I challenge you, the next time that you start to say that, I hope you stop yourself from letting those words come out of your face. Because our minds listen to what we have to say. I think if we tell our minds something, especially over and over again, we believe it and then it becomes a reality. It's kind of more of a self-fulfilling prophecy than anything else. 

What's interesting, and I've said this on a lot of videos but I keep coming back to it because I think it's so interesting is, we think 60,000 thoughts a day according to Cleveland Clinic. 95 percent of the thoughts that we think today, we thought yesterday. It's thoughts like this, this idea of us saying, "I could never do this. I could never do that,” that actually drive our life, because they're kind of under the surface. We don't really even pay attention often when we say things like that, but they affect our lives.

If a thought like this is sitting in the driver seat, having the awareness of it at least gives you the opportunity to question its validity. If it's driving you somewhere, make sure it's driving you in a direction that you want to go. 

If you have a method or a favorite journal, or a favorite software that you like to just get your thoughts out and write out, "Why do I think that I can't do this?" I encourage you, use that method. Use your go-to method. Then if you don't, I have created a freebie just for this purpose. If you go over to unsabotage.com/tryit, it's a free printable and it is journal with space. Space for you to write and get those thoughts out of your mind so you can actually see them. 

Then there is an exercise, it's a really cool exercise that I absolutely adore, on the back of that printable that allows you to visually see your thoughts in a way that you've never been able to before.

So, what did you think about this idea of, "We don't know everything about anything,” and how it relates to this statement that we say a lot of, "Oh, I could never do that?” If you like what I had to say, I would love it if you would share. I can't wait until we get to connect again next Tuesday morning at 11 AM Pacific, right here on Facebook Live. My challenge for the week, until we talk again, never say never. Have an amazing day, and we will talk soon. Bye, Gorgeous.

Have an amazing rest of your week and never say never.

XOXO,
Ginny

Ep. 4: What to THINK When Bad Things Happen in The World and I Feel Helpless

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It's been a bit of a week.

So, this week's video is a little different. I talk about the two promises anger makes and keeps with us, a tricky source of weariness and the feeling of helplessness...

PLUS... I share how pendulum clocks and fight songs and college football games remind us how powerful we really are.

In case you're rather read this as a blog post, here is this week's transcription:

Hey, Gorgeous. Ginny Townsend here, and I want to welcome you to another week of this Facebook Live show with UnSabotage. Now, if you aren't yet familiar with what I talk about, I generally talk about themes and topics that come from my work with UnSabotage. So I thought it might be really good for me to touch on those things to make more sense out of what we'll be talking about today, and that's actually what happened in Charlottesville this weekend and kind of what do we do. What do we think when something bad happens and we feel helpless?

The work that I do with UnSabotage is, it's this beautiful community of primarily women, and we do work to figure out what are the “Glass Walls” that we have set up in our own path, in our own way that keep us from where we want to go to step into that life we adore. So these Glass Walls, they're a lot of thoughts. It's a lot of thought work. 

But when I saw what happened this weekend out in Charlottesville, first of all, my heart was broken. Second of all, I couldn't shake the thought of, can what we're doing to help move individuals forward, can that be overlayed to a bigger event or at a societal level? Can what we're doing here help people when something bad happens that we makes us feel helpless? So, that's a task that I took on. I spent the weekend really looking into the reactions and the conversation and just absorbing as much as I could to add as much value as I could today.

There were two things that I really discovered when I started observing the behaviors and everything going on around what happened in Charlottesville. The first thing was when the people spoke about it, there's a lot of anger. I'll unpack these, but right now I just want to clarify that there's nothing wrong with that. It was an observation. And as I continued to dig into it, I saw that there was actually anger on both sides (or all sides) of the argument. 

Secondly, what I observed is, especially the first couple days, there wasn't a lot of coverage about it, and when there was, I just got this sense that there was a weariness about it. That there was like a, "It's happening again? We're really going through this again?" I feel like both of those need to be acknowledged, and they were a great place to start the conversation.

So let me unpack that angry piece. Now, like I said, and I will reiterate, there is nothing wrong with being angry, especially when something terrible like this happens. In fact, I was angry. But what I really want to say is anger, it can be a friend. Any good friend will make and keep promises, and anger makes and keeps two really key promises to us or for us. 

Those promises are, one, "I will help you find your voice." When something bad happens like this at a larger scale, a personal scale, whatever, but when we feel angry, we all of a sudden feel the need to speak up to say something to acknowledge it, to bring awareness to it. So this anger, where we might not have previously felt compelled to speak up, helps us find our voice. That is a promise that anger keeps. Actually, I'm doing that now. I'm speaking up because I feel that ... I'm still angry about what happened.

Then the second promise that anger makes and keeps to us is it keeps us focused on action. What I mean by this is, say you've been considering going to law school, and then after this weekend in Charlottesville you thought to yourself, "You know what, this is the time. I need to go to law school. I think I'd be really good at it. I think I could make a difference. My sphere of influence would be better." The target audience, the demographic, or the people that you serve will be better off for you being in a place of a different type of authority. So that can spur you to action.

This is actually the piece, the promise that anger keeps that gives it its negative reputation, and that is that sometimes we act negatively based on anger. You could actually really easily make the argument that that is what happened with the perpetrator driving the car this weekend in Charlottesville acted out of anger. So anger in and of itself is not bad. It is a friend keeping a promise. It's how we relate to that friendship.

What I have observed and what I hope you find interesting and hopefully enlightening and even load-lifting is I think sometimes we hold anger to a third promise that it has never made and it is incapable of keeping. That is the promise of a resolution. Anger has never promised that it would bring us to the finish line in anything that we're dealing with or talking about or discussing. It has never promised to be the full circle. It has never promised to be the peace, the resolution. 

I think that might actually be what leads into the second observation I made this weekend was that feeling of weariness or overwhelm, is I think we're weary when we don't see the resolution, but we didn't really realize that we're holding anger to a promise it never actually committed to. So when we don't see the resolution coming through to the results, it is so easy to feel weary, that like, "This is happening again? Aren't we making strides? Aren't we using our voice?" 

And it can lead to these broad strokes comments, these kind of all-inclusive comments that are saying like, "The world is terrible. Everyone is horrible. People are idiots." They're very broad strokes, and so when they're very generic and all-inclusive in that way, it is a sign of feeling helpless or weary or overwhelmed. I want to acknowledge that because you're coming at it from a great place because you want something to change, and I'm not looking down on anyone. This is something that I've just uncovered in myself and have started to observe in others. But it doesn't bring that resolution.

So I want to invite you to just a little bit of a shift in perspective with a couple of different stories that I think might paint a really, hopefully, hope-filled picture for you. And that is shifting from "I feel compelled to see the whole world change because the whole world is messed up, the whole world's at this whatever level" and the spheres of influence that we don't actually necessarily touch day-to-day and to move to the "What can I do to strengthen, to edify my own world, my own sphere of influence?"

I have two stories for you that may sound completely unrelated, but I promise you that they're not, and I promise you they connect, and I hope that they're stories that you remember. One example is there was a clockmaker in Europe in the 1600s. Bet you didn't expect me to start out with that! He made pendulum clocks. One day, the story goes, he was feeling ill and went to lay down, but he hung up a clock that he had just finished before going to lay down. So when he was laying down, he was looking up at the clock that he had just hung with the one right next to it, and the pendulums were kind of, they were just doing their own thing. But he started to notice that after time, the pendulums started syncing up. Isn't that interesting? It actually baffled scientists and philosophers and such for a couple hundred years. 

And then the second story, the second word picture I want to throw out to you is, have you ever been to a college football game? Okay. We lived in Nebraska for a few years, and we went to a couple Cornhusker games, and they're an experience! There's like 40,000 people there to watch one event. The moment that I loved and really why I'm bringing this story up is the fight song. That moment when the crowd, and then I assume the football players, you couldn't hear them obviously, but everyone joined in and sang this fight song. The energy changed, and it was palpable. 

So what I didn't know then was, something I learned recently is that when people sing together, their heartbeat actually syncs up. Isn't that incredible? And it doesn't have to be 40,000 or 50,000 people in a stadium. It could be five or ten people, it could be a quartet, it could be a smaller choir. I was in a choir in high school, and looking back, I was like, "You know what, I can totally picture that our hearts were beating at the same time." Isn't that incredible? 

People from different walks of life, especially in the football analogy, all walks of life, all ages, all types of people, when they come to that one place and they sing together, their heartbeats sync up. That is why it feels so powerful. So, it is the proximity. It's the proximity that we had at the football game, it's the proximity even in the high school choir, and it's the proximity of those clocks and the pendulums that ended up syncing up together that really made the difference. That's what made them so unique and stand out. 

So I want to encourage you that if you feel like the world is big and scary, it can be, yes, but I want you to feel so empowered to be that clock that other clocks can mirror up with. And I want to encourage you, you can be the first person to start singing that people will sync up with and start joining you, and then the heartbeats will sync up. I love both of those stories. Let me know in the comments, what do you think is a cooler story? Do you think it's the pendulum, or do you think it is the singing? I'd love to hear from you.

I want to remind you that you are not helpless. The world may feel big and scary, especially when bad things happen. I hope that you remember this moment and take from it that you can help your world be a better place, a safer place, a stronger place, a more cohesive place, a more welcoming place. However you want to create it, it is yours to create. You have more power, you have more authority than you realize, especially over your world. 

And in case you think that I am being too soft on this, I want you to know that love is not weak. I wrote this down because I wanted to make sure I voiced it. It is not a cop out. It is bold, and it is brave, and it requires our best. There is no real way to halfway love. There's no real way to halfway push up or pull up. You can halfway pull down, but there's no halfway to pull up. 

So I encourage you to think of yourself as a pendulum clock, to think of yourself as that first person that's willing to start singing that gets everyone else going, to have more of an influence in your world. That is what you can do when it feels overwhelming and you feel helpless. You can change your world. You can have an impact in your world. 

I would be remiss if I didn't create another call to action of, it is so helpful to see our thoughts out on paper or on a screen. So especially if you feel thoughts of anger about this weekend, I encourage you, if you have a favorite method of journaling, whether that be you have a favorite journal, a physical journal, or if you use Evernote or Google Docs or whatever, I encourage you to use whatever method you love to answer that question — "Why am I so angry about X?" In this case, Charlottesville. And then I encourage you to ask a second question of yourself, is "Do I feel helpless? And then if so, why?" 

I encourage you to journal on those topics. It will help you see your thoughts, understand your thoughts more clearly. But it will also really give you insight into people around you and potentially what they're feeling, what they're thinking, what they're concerned about, and be able to approach them, be that clock, be that first person to sing in a more effective way.

If you don't yet have a method of journaling, I have a gift for you. If you go over to UnSabotage.com/tryit, it's a blank journal. It is full of space for you to write. It's a printable, so you can just download it for free. Then at the end, there is the really cool key that helps you to see your thoughts in a totally different visual color-coded way. So like I said, journal on those, whatever method, but if you're looking for a method, I have one for you because I really believe in the power of that.

So again, be that pendulum clock, be that first person to start singing, and you can help change your world today. Have an amazing day, and I will see you next Tuesday at 11:00 AM Pacific. Bye, Gorgeous.

So, with all that said, I hope you enjoyed my take on what we actually have power to change in our own worlds.

You are a beautiful person!

XOXO,
Ginny

Ep. 3: The 2 Secrets To Create Any Breakthrough

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It's true! Breakthrough is totally possible. Now what do I mean by "breakthrough?" In today's video, I paint a picture using a sport's analogy called "The Yips."

If you're looking for breakthrough in any area of your life, any real progress starts here with these 2 secrets. Take a watch! I'm sure you'll be pleasantly surprised by how attainable breakthroughs really are! 

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Hello, Gorgeous. Ginny Townsend here, and I hope your day is already absolutely amazing. Thank you so much for joining me today, as we cover the two secrets to having any breakthrough you want in your life. 

How does that sound? I know that sounds like a really, really big statement, but I honestly don't think I've oversold it. I think that you'll be pleasantly surprised with what I have to share. It is actually doable, that it's actually attainable, and that you can have breakthrough in any area of your life.

Now, let's first start about what do I mean by breakthrough? Now, okay, I love for the sake of analogy, sports and so even though I'm not a super athlete or anything, I enjoy running, but I don't consider myself to be an athlete. I love sports analogies. The one that I think is probably most relevant today is the concept of having the "yips." If you are a golf fan, or a baseball player, or a baseball fan you may have heard this term before. What the "yips" means, if you're not familiar with it, is say a golfer is up to put, they're totally like, "I've got this," they hit the put and then they don't actually get it in the hole, it throws them off. There's a ton of anxiety, there's a ton of just mental war, or air war, going on. Or with a baseball player, very similar. They go up to hit, very confident and then, WHAM, totally miss it and it throws them off.

Usually it's not considered the "yips" if you just have an off game, but if that instance keeps repeating itself in your mind and causing a lot of anxiety and not allowing you to have your fullness expressed, your full capabilities out on the field, or on the course, beyond that first game. It extends into a couple weeks or maybe months, or even the whole season, that's when it's called the "yips." That's when it's called ... It can be a slump, is another way of naming it. But why I really think the "yips" is pretty on point for what I want to talk about is it has nothing to do with their physical capabilities. They're an athlete. They have practiced for whatever they're doing for a long time. It is all up in their mental game.

So, with that in mind, that's what I mean by breakthrough, is being able to tune your mind to be able to be optimal for whatever breakthrough you want to achieve, whether that is getting out of the "yips" in a sporting game, or if it is actually achieving a goal in a business or your personal life. Whatever the goal may be, that's what I'm talking about when I say breakthrough.

Now, the first secret of having a breakthrough in any area of your life is actually ... I'm going to preface it by saying it may sound like an anemic secret, but I promise that it's not. That is: Be aware of your thoughts. The Cleveland Clinic, a little while ago, released a report saying that the average person thinks about 60,000 thoughts a day. Okay, that's pretty impressive in and of itself, but what I think is actually really captivating and extremely relevant to what we're talking about today, is the fact that 95% of the thoughts we've thought today we thought yesterday. Isn't that bananas? Then, to take it even further, as if us thinking the same 95% of our thoughts every single day wasn't mind blowing enough, 80% of those thoughts are actually negative.

Now, most people agree that these negative-slanting thoughts are more of a survival mechanism, that we don't necessarily use in our day-to-day life anymore, so honestly these thoughts just serve to hold us back. Interesting, huh? 

But I want you know that it is not a hopeless situation. There is a concept, it's been very accepted by the scientific community now. It was viewed as heresy, I think in the 80s when it was first published, but it's this idea of neuroplasticity and by “neuro,” meaning brain, “plasticity” means it can change. Our minds, our brains are not these fixed organs that, well, “You're born with these abilities, you're born with this specific IQ, you can't do anything to change it. You are who you are. The card you've been dealt is the card you've been dealt.” But that's actually scientifically false

If you want to take this analogy even further, let's look at it this way. Our brain is actually the vehicle that all of our neurology travels within. It's the container. Think of your mind, where all of your emotions, your personality, those daily thoughts, habits, all of that amazing “you-ness,” is actually a passenger in the car of your brain. If you think about ... Or the driver, actually. It's the driver that can actually steer where the brain or the car, in this analogy, goes. I want you to know that being aware of your thoughts, even though most of them we think every day, and then most of those we think are negative, it's not a hopeless situation! You absolutely have in your power at your disposal, more control than you realize, more power than you realize, and you can change that! You can absolutely change that for breakthrough.

Okay, so awesome. We ... The first secret is to be aware of our thoughts. Cool. So, what do we do about it? What's next? That's secret number two, is having the ability to see your thoughts. I think when we see things, we understand them so much more. I think especially in our culture and in these last couple generations, we're a very visual society and so that's how we comprehend a lot of things, and I think that's how we understand so many stories, so many emotions. That's how we understand where we're going. We like to see a map, right? How can we get from here to there? We like to see a map.

I love the analogy here of sword fighting in the dark. Now we know that we have a lot of these negative thoughts that, whether or not we know that they exist, they fuel, they direct us everyday. They pretty much direct us every day. So why I really like the analogy of a sword fight in the dark is we now know we have kind of an opponent in this situation. It's like, “Alright, these are thoughts that I know I want to change, but I can't see them.” We have the sword. We're doing what we know to do, but we're just swinging. If we can't see our thoughts, how can we actually do anything to change them?

Another analogy I really like is this idea of, have you ever woken up in the middle of the night to go get a drink of water, and as you walk through the living room you totally biff it and hit your knee really hard on an end table? I mean, you knew the end table existed. You knew it was there. It's not a surprise to you, it's just you couldn't see it so you ran right into it. That's why it's so important for us to be able to see. What we can't see we can't really do anything about, and so because of this, and because I really believe that this is the start of every breakthrough, I've created a free gift for you, and it's because I adore you. I absolutely love you. 

If you go over to unsabatoge.com/tryit, there is a free printable, and it's a really simple exercise that walks you through getting the thoughts out of your mind, onto your paper. Then there's a second part of the exercise that actually allows you to map your thoughts and see your thoughts in a totally new and different way. I promise you've never seen anything like it. I promise it's really simple and it's really powerful. 

So, let's say this neuroplasticity thing just really isn't doing it for you. You're like, "Ah, whatever. I'm not super into neurology or science, whatever," I have another analogy, it's kind of my next set of evidence for the case that we have the ability to create breakthrough in our lives, and it starts with a question. The question is, “how are humans and animals different?” I bet you didn't expect that one! 

You could answer this question in several different ways, but as it relates to today, animals have this amazing, well some more than others, have this amazing ability to blend into their environment. If you do a quick search on YouTube "animals blending into their environment," which I encourage you to do because it's mind blowing, you'll find hours of video where you see an animal and then you don't. They're totally blended into their environment. Right? It's just, it's kind of a part of who these animals are. It's how they stay safe. But ... Okay, that's animals.

Humans, on the other hand, have the ability to make their environment reflect them. We are very unique in that we have control. We can allow our surroundings, we can allow our life to mirror what we want it to look like, completely in reverse to how animals have to, to stay safe or to stay alive they need to mirror their environment, we can make our environment mirror us!

I really, I encourage you to go over to unsabatoge.com/tryit, and download that free printable. You have the ability to make your life look like you want it to look. You are closer to breakthrough than you think, and it's just these two secrets, of being aware of our thoughts and how they can tend negative, how they can tend habitual, and then being able to see them for what they are. This is where breakthrough happens. 

So, did you like what I had to share today? I would be so honored if you would share this video with your friends, and if I don't talk with you until next Tuesday, I will see you right back here next Tuesday at 11:00 AM Pacific, live here on Facebook. Okay, have an amazing day and I encourage you to seek some breakthrough. Bye, Gorgeous!

Here's to your personal breakthroughs, gorgeous! 

XOXO,
Ginny

Ep. 2: Why You Shouldn't Use Your Indoor Voice!

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Today's topic covers one of those "Yah, it served everyone well when I was a kid, but not any more!" mindsets and behaviors from yesteryear...

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Hey, Gorgeous. Ginny Townsend here with UnSabotage, which is beautiful and unique community of women, gathered together to find out what's been holding them back, move that out of the way, and step into a life they adore. Thank you so much, for joining me today on this Facebook Live.

If you had a chance to read the description before you jumped on, this Facebook Live is about the idea of using your indoor-voice. The idea has been on my mind, it's been captivating to me for the last almost year. I have two stories for you today that are quite different, but I think they both really illustrate one side of using your indoor-voice, and why I think it's a disservice to you and to your world.

With these two stories ... If you resonate with the first story, I'm going to ask you to type, "One", in the comments box. If you resonate with the second story, I want you to comment, "Two", in the comments box. If you resonate with both of them, then type, "Both."

The first story about the indoor-voice: One of my dear, dear friends, she is known for having the best laughter in the room. When she is happy, or joyful, or something just tickles her funny bone, her laugh... she does not hold back, and it's really sweet, it's endearing, and it's definitely a part of her personality. 

About a year ago, she was telling me this story of how one day at work, one of her coworkers said something to make her laugh, and she just was like, "Bah-ha-ha-ha" You know, just really let loose, and enjoyed that moment of complete humor. Then, another coworker looked over to her, and said, "Do you even have an indoor-voice?" My heart hurt for her when she shared that story with me. She felt embarrassed, obviously. Then, she just withdrew for the rest of the day. She just really didn't want to be around people, and I think her trust of the people went down. 

That is one story of the idea of using your indoor-voice. Then, the second story is actually my own story. It has to do with a number of years ago, I was invited to be a part of this strategic meeting, and a lot of really big decisions were going to be made, on the moving forward of this organization I was a part of, all based on that meeting. 

We all prepared, we put together some strategies and some models, and then, when we got to that meeting, I presented, or, one of the models was presented that I had come up with, and it was dismissed with laughter, and that's not really the main point of it. Really, the point of it was, I immediately felt like, "Oh, no. Was I not prepared? Did I miss an email? Obviously I'm not privy to what's going on. Have they had other conversations?" It was all of these stories going on in my mind, and as a result I withdrew. I didn't say much for the rest of the meeting.

Then, afterwards, when we were driving back from the meeting, the person I rode with asks, "So, what'd you think of that? What did you think of that conversation?" I was like, "You know what? It was different than I thought it would be, but I still feel like I don't have this question answered", and laid it out again. Then, the person that I was driving with looked at me, and was like, "That's exactly why I asked you to be a part of this meeting." 

It made me stop and think, because, while the first story of using your indoor-voice, was someone else had told her to use her indoor-voice, but in this instance, I had told myself to use my indoor-voice. 

I've thought a lot about this idea when we were growing up, there's obviously a place to be polite and courteous and respectful of your surroundings, and use your indoor-voice, but I think it can carry over into what we're doing as adults, who we want to be, and how we hold ourselves back. 

If I were to answer, "So, why is this important? What is the idea of having an indoor-voice, not" or pushing back on the idea of using our indoor-voice. Why is that important? There's several different ways I can go with this, but one I keep coming back to is, the world can seem huge, and daunting, and like, what can we do to make a difference in it? But something that I'm challenging myself to do, and so, I'm going to challenge you to do, is to take a look at like, "Okay, maybe changing the world is overwhelming and daunting, but what can I do to change my world? What can I offer? What words can I say that are said in love, that are said in healing, that are powerful, that I can actually help to change my world?"

I hope you found those two stories valuable, and I want to also close the loop, and say, "Yeah. Okay, we can make the case for using our indoor-voice is not serving us at our highest good, and our world around us." We can get that in theory, but what do we do about it? 

I went ahead and I created a gift, just for you, and if you go over to unsabotage.com/tryit there is a free printable, just for you. It's called, "UnClutter." If you download it, I encourage you to first acknowledge, which story resonated with you the most. Was it the first one, my friend that had the laughter and was told to use her indoor-voice, or the second one, where I told myself to use my own indoor-voice? Which one resonated with you the most? Then, I encourage you to think, and to jot, and to journal about what your voice specifically can offer in changing your world. Because, like I said, your voice is beautiful, it is healing, and loving, and powerful. Your world needs your voice in it. 

Again, did story number one resonate with you, or number two resonate with you? Go ahead and write that in the comments, and then hop on over to unsabotage.com/tryit. I hope you have an amazing week. I hope you do not use your indoor-voice, and I will talk to you again next Tuesday at 11:00 AM, Pacific.

Bye, Gorgeous.

P.S. BONUS! Want to read more on this topic? Here is a previous blog post I'd written about this topic...

One of my dear friends, let’s call her Sarah, told me this story a couple months back and I haven’t been able to get it out of my thoughts. It stopped me in my tracks, really. Grab a seat and let me share what happened…

So, there she was, Sarah was working hard at her desk when one of her coworkers made her laugh. Now something you need to know about Sarah is that she has the best laugh! Literally it’s the best. Her laugh is loud, joyful and, honestly, it fills the room and makes you smile just listening to it.

That’s when it happened… Another one of Sarah’s coworkers turned to her and said, “Gosh, Sarah, do you ever use your indoor voice?” Youch! It’s probably not a surprise to hear she quieted up and stayed to herself for the rest of the day.

When Sarah shared this story, my first reaction was shock which moved right over to some anger. How dare they try to silence Sarah’s incredible laughter! Her laughter is a gift! And then I thought, what kind of an impact does someone have when they tell someone to silence a part of them, or use their indoor voice?

So, after telling Sarah to absolutely ignore this coworker and that she shouldn’t DARE to use any less than her full voice, I couldn’t get this story out of my mind. It stayed in my thoughts for days.

That’s when I started thinking about this idea on a larger level. I’m not sure if you’ve ever had a similar experience: you were out there doing you and someone told you that you were too much, too loud, too real, too smart, too quiet, too tall, too anything… but an experience like this can stop you in your tracks.

And I’d like to have the honor of dispelling that myth or limitation for you right now. <3 You are an incredibly smart, lovable, capable and heart-centered person. So, don’t ever let anyone tell you to use your indoor voice! The world desperately needs the full you in it to make it a better place. The world desperately needs you to step into who you are, step into your genius zone, and own your voice, own your story and own your impact (even if another person labels it too much, too loud, too real, too smart, too quiet, too tall, too anything). It is much more of a reflection of their own personal limitations, even if it’s said from a place of love.

So, as you get out there today, doing what you do, use your full voice (which I’ll admit can be intimidating/scary/terrifying… but totally worth it AND needed), remember that your world will only benefit from hearing your voice. And, I want to share one of my favorite quotes from that sums up my thoughts on the matter perfectly:

“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, 'Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?' Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It's not just in some of us; it's in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.” Marianne Williamson, A Return to Love

PS - Now, before I sign off, I feel like I should quickly speak to those who identify with the other coworker who asked her to be quiet. I say this lovingly because I’ve felt this way too, if you feel more closely aligned with this character in the story, I encourage you to explore your voice. I’ve found that when I’m most annoyed by the voice of other’s, I’m usually not paying attention to my own. So, this is a heart-filled, grab-a-glass-of-wine-and-let’s-talk invitation to take a look at your unique voice and take a moment to be in awe of all you have to offer. <3 Still not convinced? This is not a guilt trip or a ride on the shame train. So, you do you and I encourage you to throw on those headphones, listen to what speaks to you now and come back to this if your view shifts.  

XOXO,
Ginny